Looking For Feedback, Regarding BP

I've been having a lot of issues, regarding my bowel program and a few other things. Today I went to Kessler, to meet with my physiatrist, in hopes of getting some answers. She gave me a few things to think about, and answered a few question.

I'm a C4/C5 complete quad, with no functional mobility. I'm hoping to connect with some other people, with similar injuries, to see if they've experienced similar problems. My main questions revolve around my BP. I've posted this on the Care Cure Forums & CDRF forums. I figured between those two sources, and my blog readers, I might be able to get some feedback, from others in my situation. It's not that I don't trust my doctor's advice, it's just that making suggestions, & actually living it, are two different things. What sounds practical on paper, isn't aways the case, in reality.

Anyway, here's what I posted:

 I've been experiencing autonomic dysreflexia a lot lately (I have daily episodes-more so on BP days), and have been miserable. Two of the biggest culprits to my daily bouts of AD (sweating, chills, cold sweats, headaches, etc.) are my bowels and the fact that I have hemorrhoids. My physiatrist confirmed that my diagnosis (from before my accident) of having irritable bowel syndrome, CAN still be creating pain, and discomfort I don't feel, however my body interprets as AD. She said even though I have a neurogenic bowel and bladder, the IBS might be creating a lot of my AD. In terms of the chest pain I get, that we haven't been able to determine a cause for, she suspects it's GI related (however did say there is also a chance it's nerve pain). She recommended I follow up with a gastroenterologist to discuss getting an endoscopy, and also recommended I try taking bentyl for the IBS. She suggested I have the hemorrhoids surgically removed, as they can definitely cause AD. She also wants me to get a urodynamics test done, and spoke to my urologist. 

The other thing she discussed with me is my bowel program.  I absolutely HATE having to do it. It is both physically, and emotionally taxing on me. However, my only other "option" is getting a colostomy, and I absolutely refuse to do that. 

Anyway, the bowel program is very uncomfortable for me, and creates A LOT of AD symptoms for me. I described to my physiatrist how we've been doing my BP (using the dibucaine ointment, with magic bullet suppository and digital stimulation). I explained it can take up to two hours to complete, and that the nurses have to digitally check me multiple times. Every time the nurses do the digital stimulation, it creates AD. I do my BP, every other morning, on a commode. My blood pressure is initially very low (as low as 70/50) and usually rises to normal ranges (100/60). By the time I'm finished with BP, I'm achy, have the cold sweats and very fatigued. I take my shower, and just want to rest for the remainder of the day. It almost feels like having the flu. I hate it.

My physiatrist said that my nurses should only be doing two digital stimulations (once initially & once to check if I'm finished). She said, if I require more than that, that I should consider upping my BP related medications (senakot & Colace). I know several people that have BPs and know for a fact that they also have their nurses do the digital stimulation multiple times. I'm hesitant to start messing with my medication doses, because I don't want accidents. She did say that the magic bullet suppository, although effective, is known to create AD. She suggested I try using a product called "Enmeez" and gave me a few samples. She said she had a lot of patients with AD issues that preferred using the Enmeez to magic bullets. 

I know the nursing agency I use is familiar with Enmeez, because my case supervisor gave me some samples a while back. I'm VERY apprehensive about trying it, only because it is like an enema. I'm not sure how the nurses will be able to administer it, while I'm sitting on the commode, without making a huge mess on the floor. We normally put a pad down on the floor, in front of the toilet, for when the nurses check me. If I start to go, before they push me back over the toilet, it is very bothersome to me. I'm really traumatized by the process. I find having to have help going to the bathroom, humiliating and degrading. I'm so sick of BP in general. I hate needing to do the digital stimulation so often, however I'm not sure how else, we can be positive I've finished going (or if have gone adequately) without needing to do it.. I'm curious to see if the Enmeez with work better, that the way we are currently doing my BP. I'm willing to try. 

I'm wondering if anyone else with a similar injury, that has to have a BP, would be willing to share their thoughts, based on their experience? 

1- I've only talked to a couple of friends regarding their BP, and they said they also need to get "checked" (digitally) multiple times during their BP. I'm wondering if my doctor was wrong, in that respect. 

2-I'm also curious to know if anyone has tried using the Enmeez product, instead of using a suppository, and if so how they used it (set up- on a commode, or in bed) and if they found it caused less AD? 

3-I'm wondering if anyone else who has had a history of hemorrhoids, has had them surgically removed? If so, did you find a decrease in AD episodes, and did the hemorrhoids return? 

4-Does anyone with a high level injury also have IBS? If so, have you tried bentyl? I've tried probiotics and the drug "pamine" (prescribed before my accident) and neither helped, or offered relief. 

Any feedback would be greatly appreciated! Thanks :)